Have you ever stopped to think how struggle may be your identity?
If you struggle in your relationships…
You struggle with your finances…
You struggle with your self-esteem…
You struggle to let go of emotional addictions…
… Isn’t it time to confront your struggle mentality?
The definition of struggle is “to make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or constriction.” If you feel like you are struggling in life, you are likely living in resistance.
For many people, struggle is a way of life.
Struggle is an identity.
Struggle is noble for many people.
Many people wave the flag in the noble struggler’s hit parade. They join the band of struggle. They seek other people to struggle with.
Struggle is a dark energy and feels heavy. It takes a lot of effort. And it’s exhausting.
To identify why you struggle, start to take a look at why you do what you do.
Ask yourself, “What am I resisting?”
Resistance is force. You cannot force yourself to succeed. You cannot force yourself to break through. In force, you are in a state of suffering.
Letting Go Your Struggler Story
One of my clients had been in a state of struggle with her health. She struggled with back pain that resulted in a spinal fusion surgery. A year later she had to have a second back surgery because the first one had failed.
Soon after she developed gut issues. For eight years of her life, she lived in struggle.
And then one day, she had a breakthrough. She uncovered the mind-body connection to the stuffed emotions keeping her stuck. She made a decision to no longer live in force—to no longer live in the past. She let go and let God. She made a commitment to no longer embrace the struggle.
It took one decision for her health to rapidly improve.
When you become enlightened, you no longer struggle. This is when you begin breaking through the nonphysical emotional state of anxiety. You step into a state of conscious awareness where you “know.”
(To improve your inner dialogue, listen to my podcast: Silencing Your Critical Advisor: Releasing Your Inner Critic.)
Doubt Creates Struggle
In a “know state,” you don’t doubt. When you doubt, you struggle with your decisions, your commitments, and your ideas. You become indecisive, and this is how you overwhelm yourself. Procrastination sets in, and you continually get ready to get ready.
In this state of unawareness, you use a communication style that sounds like this:
“I don’t know.”
“I don’t know why I do this.”
“I don’t know I struggle.”
“I don’t know why I struggle with dieting.”
“I don’t know why I drank last night.”
In an “I don’t know” state, you’re in denial.
When you’re committed and no longer attached to the mind-body connection to the events that shaped your struggle…
…you can let go of struggle.
You’re no longer marching in the struggler’s hit parade.
You’re no longer the bandleader, the major, the majorette.
You’re able to step into a state of emotionally aware consciousness. You begin to live in love, joy, bliss, prosperity, and reciprocity.
You no longer relapse.
Cheating is no longer an option.
You become rigorously honest with yourself and with others.
When you let go of struggle, your emotional etheric energy begins to shift. There is a different level of alignment.
The Procrastination Struggle
Struggling is connected to avoiding and procrastinating.
When you struggle with a decision or with commitment…
…you’re giving yourself permission to avoid and procrastinate.
Procrastination comes from the Latin word procrastinare, meaning “to avoid.” When you’re a chronic avoider, you’re a starter… not a finisher.
Many people struggle with commitment. It is unequivocally one of the biggest struggles that the world populace battles. For many people, struggle is their identity.
Struggle has a lot of moving parts. You start off the day wrong. You don’t make your bed. You spend most of the day overwhelmed. You’re chronically late. You’re unorganized. You’re undisciplined. The bills mount up. The clutter mounts up. You’re struggling with how to start, how to finish, what to do, and who to be.
Struggle leads to the emotion called overwhelm.
If you’re overwhelmed, it means you have a lot going on in your mind. The noise in your head is loud. You’re indecisive. You have a lot of obligations. You do more for others than you’d ever do for yourself… And you struggle to break through. You struggle with breaking free.
This is what many noble strugglers do. They hold on.
Letting Go of Struggle
Many of my clients ask me how to let go of struggle. It’s not asking, “How do I let go of struggle?” Struggle requires you to understand why you do what you do. To begin releasing struggle consciousness, start by uncovering why you struggle.
Answer the following questions:
Are you clear on your dreams and goals or are you uncertain?
Do you prioritize your tasks?
Do you over-obligate yourself to others to gain love and approval?
Are you disorganized?
Do you procrastinate or are you productive?
Do you blame others for your challenges?
Do you hold your parents, a business partner, or an ex-spouse responsible for your struggles?
What situations or actions do you keep repeating in your life?
By asking yourself these types of questions, you can uncover the cause creating the effect of struggle.
As you begin to move into a state of power and let go of force… you change the neurochemical response in your brain that keeps you holding on to an emotionally addicted state, that keeps you in anxiety.
When you understand how you have been running on autopilot… you can put your hands on the controls and begin to navigate in a new direction.